ParentingAces
Inspiration vs. Motivation
0Last week, David Benzel of Growing Champions for Life offered a free webinar entitled Solve the Mystery of Your Child’s Motivation and Distraction Issues.
During the 40 minutes or so that David spoke, he focused on the fact that inspiration and motivation are two very different animals – inspiration comes from the outside – for example, we might be inspired by reading a book about Nelson Mandela or watching the Olympics – while motivation is created internally as the pursuit to satisfy an unmet need.
Listening to David’s words took such a load off my mind! I finally heard and understood why all my nagging and reminding and pushing falls on deaf ears. There is nothing – not one thing – I can do to make my son take care of his More >
Parent Involvement: How Much Is Too Much?
56 days ago
Lately, I’ve really been struggling even more than usual with how much interaction and involvement I should have in my son’s tennis life. He’s 16 1/2 now, driving a car that we provide him, with 24/7 access to a computer and iPhone. That means he can get himself to the courts and take care of any scheduling or planning that needs to happen related to his tennis. That also means, theoretically, that I can take a step back and let go, let him handle any tennis things with his coach, simply serve as a funding source and chauffeur for the out-of-town tournaments (and, of course, as a sounding board, too, when he needs it). The problem is that he’s a boy, and, like many teenage boys, falls a bit short in the communication department, More >
High School Tennis Revisited
01 week ago
Last year, about this time, I was writing regularly about my son’s experience on his high school tennis team – the good, the bad, and the ugly.
However, due to some ridiculous eligibility rule changes by the Georgia High School Association (GHSA), my son did not play for his school team this year. It was HIS choice, don’t get me wrong, but, basically, our state governing body made it very unattractive for any high-level players to join their high school teams this year – to summarize, the rule said that a player lost eligibility if he or she trained for his/her sport during stated school hours. For my son and many other tennis players, their school hours are modified in such a way as to include “zero period” and online classes so they More >
Happy Mother’s Day
01 week ago
in Parenting
Those three kiddos in the photo above belong to me and have taught me more about life than I ever thought I could learn.
This morning, I read the following in an email from Janis Meredith of JBMThinks and wanted to share it with y’all. I think she does a great job of recognizing the challenges of parenting!
Happy Mother’s Day!
I hope you moms feel loved and I hope you dads make sure Mom feels loved.
But even in the midst of being appreciated, moms and dads can feel overwhelmed with the parenting job, and you may ever wonder if you will get this parenting thing figured out.
You might be thinking with all the rest of us, I’ll probably get the hang of it the day my my kids leave home!
My youngest turns 20 in a couple of weeks. I should More >
And Now A Quick Survey . . .
01 week ago
Thank you for answering the poll question I posted earlier this week! Help me gather even more information by answering the 4 multiple choice questions in the survey link below. Feel free to add your comments, too, to clarify any of your choices. And, please do share the survey with your other Tennis Parent friends – the more data I can collect, the better. I will be using your answers in an upcoming article, so stay tuned!
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11 week ago
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02 weeks ago
If you listened to this week’s ParentingAces Radio Show, you may recall Sol Schwartz of Holabird Sports talking about one of his ideas for raising money to help the victims of Hurricane Sandy, especially those in the tennis community. If you’re not aware of the damage done to our tennis compatriots in the Northeast, take a look at this video:
Sol’s fundraiser is a simple one to implement and goes something like this:
When your child registers to play a junior tennis tournament, have him or her contact the Tournament Director to ask if it would be okay to place a jar at the Tournament Check-In Desk. That jar would be a collection point for whatever spare change players and their parents would like to contribute to the Junior Tennis More >
Vote on ROG in USTA NorCal Section
12 weeks ago
I recently read the following letter from coach Bill Patton addressed to the Board of Directors of USTA NorCal before their May 15 vote on whether to expand ROG competition to 12-and-under players:
Dear NorCal Board of Directors,
I have been coaching for 25 years, have 200+ continuing education units with USPTA, and completed coursework and a thesis in Education. I am running the first ever NIKE Tennis Camps that use compression Tennis Balls. I have used compression balls since 1999.
The mandate that all 12 under players must play in a certain format with regression equipment is misguided and heavy handed, for many reasons, but please allow me to cite my top 7 reasons: 1. There is a wide variability of the playability and quality of More >
Growing Pains!
03 weeks ago
in Resources
For those who don’t follow the ParentingAces Facebook page or Twitter feed, you might not know that I recently moved the blog to a new server or that I recently started showing ads on the site.
ParentingAces has been a true labor of love for the past 18 months or so, but when I was approached by a fellow tennis cohort about advertising on the blog, I figured it was worth looking into. So, now you see an ad at the top of each page as well as on the right sidebar – these are randomly generated by the agency that I’ve contracted with and will, hopefully, provide y’all with an introduction to some tennis-related companies that can offer your junior player(s) information or products that will prove helpful in their tennis More >